"Stop trying to fix me. Love me instead" (What Loss Exposes, Pt. 2)
The title of this post is the title that an essay written by Jeff Foster in his book, "The Joy of True Meditation: words of encouragement for tired minds and wild hearts." A synopsis of the essay/article is that being present (without trying to 'solve the problem,' take away the discomfort, fix the person) is more helpful to those who are hurting than empty words or lectures or '-isms' or cliche's about God's sovereignty are. There is a time and place for truth, but Proverbs, for example, is full of instructions for those wishing to provide comfort to those who are hurting. Not only what you say, but also when and how you say it are huge. Sometimes, the best thing to do is to keep your mouth shut. Something that is lost, many times, by those who seek to provide comfort is the ability to just BE with the person without feeling the need to 'make it all better.' Those of us who are grieving are in this state of grief much longer than t...